A few weeks ago, on one of my daily binges through Pinterest I came across a quote. It read,
“If you don’t know how to be alone, you don’t know who you are.”
After reading this quote it stuck with me, and I pondered it’s meaning. Weeks pasted, then suddenly it’s meaning hit me.
There has always been a negative association with the action of being alone. There is also an underlying fear of it. This sense of aloneness seems to imply that it is not acceptable to be by one’s self, but rather constantly needing someone or something there with us.
I discovered this was a fear of mine. It took weeks of reflecting to finally become aware of my own actions. I never allowed myself to be alone. I found I relied a great deal on technology. If it was not texting it was snap-chatting. If it was not snap-chatting it was social media. What I realized was, I was finding comfort in these entities. The technology gave me the impression I was in some way connecting and interacting with others.
I always had something there, connecting me with the outside world in one way or another. I never gave myself the opportunity to connect with myself. Preventing me from ever knowing my true self.
It is hard to take a step away from everything and just sit with you and yourself. I know for me this was scary and left me feeling vulnerable, the sense of being “alone” brought with it many anxieties. Though as I began to master being alone, I eventually found peace in it.
The ability to take a step away from all technologies, and removing yourself from the world can be enlightening. It allowed me to find myself and my happy place. Being alone has given me the opportunity to learn more about myself and what makes me happy, also revealing the areas in my life which need improving. Finding peace in being alone has uncovered my true self, helping me to grow as a person.
Remember, there is a difference between being alone and feeling lonely. Being alone allows you to drop your guard, giving you the freedom to think for yourself and opening room for personal growth. Mastering the art of being alone is important if you want to lead a fulfilling life.
It is impossible to have healthy and happy relationships with others if you cannot have a healthy relationship with yourself.
I encourage you all to take a chunk of time from your day, and dedicate it to yourself. No technology, no anything. Just you. Please share your experiences, I’d love to know what you learned in your time alone.